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Why the first impression is so important and how to make good ones?
Category: Blog,Recommended,Self improvement Author: Feel Better Date: 5 days ago Comments: 0
why the first impression is so important

Did you know that it takes about 15 seconds to make a first impression? Also, more than half of first impressions are made based off of appearance. Also, the tone of the voice is something that influences the first impression greatly, while what you say isn’t that much important as one might think. But why the first impression is so important? Do we really have less than 20 seconds to make a good first impression? How to actually make a great first good impression? Just keep reading our article to find out.

Why the first impression is so important and how to make a good one?

More often than not, making a bad first impression is something that you can’t go back from. But the good news is that you can work on being a stellar first impressionist in a few easy steps. Sure, this road might get “ugly” because you might discover some things about you that will make a bad impression on yourself. Just look at it as a road to improvement in general, and making good first impressions is just one of the benefits.

Here are the steps you need to make to become the “First impression magician”.

Honestly ask yourself if you make a great first impression or not?

Do you want to be seen as energetic, reliable, confident, and make a great first impression on anyone you meet for the first time? You need to make a great impression on yourself first. This is the “ugly” part of the path we mentioned. This is where you have to be honest with yourself and spot the things about you that, firstly, you don’t like, and then what other people might not like about you. Once you get those sorted out, you can move to the next phase which is, getting yourself in shape, in every possible way.

Get in physical shape

Exercise and work on your body at least 3 or 4 days a week and make sure you eat healthily. Did you know that “oversized” people are less likely to make a good impression on a job interview that people who are fit? Companies see “bulkier” people as an expense because such workers are less energetic, thus less productive, and they take more sick days than workers who are in better physical shape. So, do you want to be “that guy’?

“Dress to kill”

In order to “blow away” anyone who you meet for the first time, you have to be dressed to “kill”. This means that your wardrobe is clean, without wrinkles, appropriate, yet stylish. Having an extra sharp wardrobe style is never out of fashion and it sure is impressive. Do you think James Bond made a bad first impression? Ever?

Don’t avoid your hairstylist

There’s nothing that says more that you are a wreck like a bad, shaggy, unnurtured hair… Therefore, don’t forget where your hairstylist’s studio is and make sure you regularly pay him a visit.

Don’t forget about your face

why the first impression is so important

Great hair matters nothing if the rest of the head isn’t in tune. So, for men, don’t allow your beard and mustache to look like they belong to a homeless person! Trim regularly! For women, bad face skin is definitely not going to make you the queen of good first impressions so use those cremes you paid a small fortune and don’t forget to practice on your makeup skills!

The first impression is so important so mind your posture and smile

why the first impression is so important

Having a straight posture and a smile on the face is as important as any other thing on this list. The truth is, when you stand straight and have a smiling face, you look confident and friendly, which is a killer combo for being the king of first impressions.


How to boost your charisma as an introvert?
Category: Blog,Motivation,Self improvement Author: Feel Better Date: 5 days ago Comments: 0
how to boost your charisma as an introvert

Most people think that being charismatic is something you were born with. Well, for some people that is true. However, charisma is actually something you can learn even if you were born without it. So, if you wanted to know how to boost your charisma as an introvert, make sure you read our guide to the end.

How to boost your charisma as an introvert? You learn about yourself that’s how

Have you ever met someone who you instantly liked and didn’t know why? Well, most likely, that person had charisma. The good news is, you can learn to be charismatic too. You just need to change your behavior a bit and presto! You are charismatic! Being charismatic is about saying and doing not about who you really are as a person. It doesn’t mean that you should pretend to be someone else. No, it just means that you have to brush up on your subconscious, work on your physical expressions and social cues, and how you treat people around you. It’s not an easy task, that we admit, but once you start working on your charisma, you will meet your true self and work on becoming a better person in general. The charisma part comes by itself.

Be present

Being confident is really important if you want to be charismatic. However, a more important thing is to be present. By present, we mean being honestly engaged when it comes to other people. It’s important to show to other people that they have your whole attention when you are listening to them. When you aren’t that confident, people might think that you are just shy, but if they don’t have your attention, you only come off as a person who is there just to show off, and not someone they can trust. So, when talking to people, make sure you really hear what they say and engage in conversation.

How to boost your charisma as an introvert? Be confident

Being confident is one of the most important milestones on your path to becoming charismatic. However, we know that as an introvert, it’s not easy to pull off the whole “I am confident” appearance. Also, you don’t want to seem too confident because that makes you look like an arrogant person. On the other hand, not being confident makes you look scared or timid. So, the key is finding a balance and feeling good in your own skin. Working on your body, dressing the way you love, and having conversations about what you understand and love talking are some of the things that build confidence.

Learn how to talk to people

how to boost your charisma as an introvert

This is probably the most important step in learning how to boost your charisma as an introvert. Charismatic people know how to start a conversation and you won’t “hear” the awkward silence when around them. If that presents a problem for you, you need to practice. Yes, it will be really hard at the start, but once you get more relaxed and your confidence builds up, you will see how rewarding it actually is. It’s all about creativity and being introvert doesn’t mean you are not creative, right? Also, starting a conversation is all about being nice, not trying to sound smart or brilliant. And, being nice to other people is a huge boost for your charisma points with others.


What does your body language say about you?
Category: Blog,Recommended,Self improvement Author: Feel Better Date: 1 week ago Comments: 0
what does your body language say about you

By being aware of how you present yourself can help you with improving your body language and with sending the message you want to send. But what does your body language say about you anyway? Why is body language so important and do people actually notice it? Read our article to get the answers you are looking for.

 

What Does Your Body Language say about you?

Thousands of years ago, people “read” other people by keeping an eye on their body language. This way, they could determine if someone was a threat or a friend without getting too close. Now, in the modern era, in most cases, our lives are not so much in danger like centuries ago, but our brain still remembers those primal instincts and assesses people by their body language.

Did you know that when you walk into a room, people there are subconsciously judging you by the way you walk and carry yourself? It’s amazing how you can make people think that you are powerful and successful, by just adapting your posture, hand gestures, and facial expressions.

 

Striking a Power Pose Makes You Look Confident and Successful

Did you know that the famous Rocky Balboa pose on the top of the stairs is as old as humanity itself? Even today, you can see that power pose with male gorillas who are showing their dominance.

When your arms are raised high, you present yourself as the victor, the one who triumphed. When in power pose, you carry your body in an open, expansive manner, where both your legs and arms are away from your body. You are not showing that you are vulnerable but victorious and that you “can take on anybody or anything”.

Now, when it comes to real-life situations, of course you don’t have to jump around and pound your chest like a gorilla. For an impressive, successful-looking power pose, it’s enough to have an upright, standing tole body pose to appear powerful and like someone who knows what he’s doing.

 

Genuine Smile Makes More Friends

In case you want to make more friends or improve your relationships in general, it’s good to know that a genuine smile makes you more cheerful and makes it easier for others to approach you and start a conversation. As a matter of fact, people who rarely smile, have problems with communication and are less appealing to new people. Needless to say, making new friends with a grumpy face is pretty much impossible.

 

Right Amount of Eye Contact Leaves a Long-lasting Impression

When you have the right amount of eye contact while talking to someone, you are making a good impression on them and they will remember you positively. Eye contact makes people sure you are actually listening to what they are saying.

But, definitely keep in mind that too much eye contact does the opposite and makes people feel creepy and uncomfortable as if they were questioned by the police for something bad they did. Thus, finding the golden middle is something you have to practice if you want to make a positive, long-lasting impression on people.

 

A Firm Handshake Impresses People

Handshake is the symbol of friendship for as long as humanity exists. In most cultures around the globe, a firm handshake is used when greeting the people you love, when meeting new people who you have nothing against, or as a sign that the mutual business agreement was successful.

So, when shaking hands, if you want to leave a favorable impression, make sure you have a firm grip but not too firm because it may be subconsciously considered as a display of dominance and a challenge. On the other hand, a weak handshake sends a message that you are weak, unreliable, and not trustworthy. Again, a golden middle is the level of firmness you want to achieve and you get there by practicing.

 


How to Stay Confident in Embarrassing Situations?
Category: Motivation,Recommended,Self improvement Author: Feel Better Date: 2 weeks ago Comments: 0
How to stay confident in embarrassing Situations

Sure, embarrassing situations are, well, embarrassing. But it’s not the end of the world and you won’t be branded as the “one that did that embarrassing thing!” for the rest of your life, don’t worry. However, we know that in that embarrassing moment, it does feel like it will last forever and it’s really hard to shake off that feeling. For that reason, we’ve decided to create this guide on how to stay confident in embarrassing situations and help you stay cool in your next OOPSSS moment.

The “Place Swap”

You will agree with us that during an embarrassing situation, the first thoughts that come to your mind are in the lines of “What have I done?! Now everyone is watching me! Oh, I wish I didn’t exist now!!” Can you see what’s happening here? All the focus is on YOU. Sure, it’s completely normal to be focused on yourself in such moments, but that is seeing the picture from your angle.

The truth is, all the people who saw your OOPSS moment, will think of it much less than yourself. They will most likely forget it after a minute. Just remember the last time you saw someone else embarrass himself. Having a hard time remembering, aren’t you? Well, that’s the whole point of “swapping places” when something embarrassing happens because you quickly realize that it’s not that big of a deal after all.

Turn the Embarrassing Moment into a Joke

How to Stay Confident in Embarrassing Situations

When you’re having an embarrassing situation, your friends will most likely tell you to laugh it off. Sure, it is easier said than done, but that actually isn’t a piece of bad advice at all! The best way to stay confident in embarrassing situations and deal with that moment is to face it right away instead of ignoring it. We all know how these moments build up tension and how hard it is to get out of that. However, breaking a joke in that particular tensed moment is the best way to get rid of the bad feeling and immediately process it and turn it into a fun, healthy memory.

Focus on Different Parts of Your Embarrassing Memory

Some of our embarrassing moments can stay in our minds for a long time. And each time you remember it, it hurts the same as it did that day, doesn’t it? Well, there’s a way to get through those embarrassing memories much easier and with less pain. All you have to do is try and remember all the other things that happened around that moment. For example, if you spilled a drink on yourself on a party that happened years ago, and the bad feeling still haunts you, focus on other things that happened at that party. Try and remember the music, the fun you had, the funny stuff you did with your friends. You will see how quickly you forget about that “incident” and start feeling happy because you remembered how much fun you actually had at that party.

Cool Off

When something embarrassing happens, most of us start feeling hot, we blush, and even the breathing becomes hard. Well, that is completely normal because our emotions affect our body temperature. Therefore, cooling off is just what you need at that moment. Taking a few deep breaths will help, but you will overcome the “heat of the moment” much easier if you physically cool yourself off with, for example, ice-cold glass of water.

Embrace It

When something embarrassing happens to us, it makes us cringe, our jaws hurt, and we all wish that it never happened. However, it did happen, and it happens to everyone around the globe, each day. So, the best thing is to face it and get over it right away because if you chug it under the rug, it will come back at you and hurt again. So, the next time something embarrassing happens to you, just pull yourself together and embrace it. It will go away much easier, trust us. You don’t want that bad feeling festering in you… None of us does!


Facts About Brain and Meditation
Category: Blog,Recommended,Self improvement Author: Feel Better Date: 3 weeks ago Comments: 0
meditation

You will be surprised by how a simple daily meditation session affects one’s life so powerfully! If you type in Google “facts about brain and meditation”, you will get tons of research and scientific studies on meditation and how it affects your brain. But when it’s all summed into a sentence, we can freely say that meditation can transform almost every area of your life.

5 Interesting Facts About Brain and Meditation

Here are 5 scientifically proven facts of how meditation rewires your brain for success, peace, and happiness.

#1: Stress Reduction

Is the weight of the entire world on your back? Did you know that meditation effectively reduces anxiety and stress? Studies show that Zen-type and mindfulness meditation drastically lower the levels of stress if practiced regularly for 3 months. There are also studies that explain the literal density reduction of the brain’s tissue associated with worrying and anxiety. If you want to lower the amounts of stress in your life, meditation might just be the answer.

SourcesScienceDirectNCBIThe American Journal of Psychiatry, Wiley Online Library.

#2: Increased Sense of Well-being

Do you think that your life should be filled with energy and happiness? Then know that mindfulness meditation boosts your psychological functioning. Furthermore, your sense of well-being improves as well. In addition, studies explain how tai chi and yoga have significant therapeutic effects as well as how they increase the quality of life.

Sources: ScienceDirect, ResearchGate, US National Library of Medicine, Annals of Behavioral Medicine.

#3: Increased Sense of Empathy and Connection

Do you think that you’ve disconnected from your closest ones? Compassion Meditation can offer you a solution for that disconnected state of mind. The type of meditation in question is more known as Metta (Love and kindness). This meditation is compassion-based and it enhances brain areas associated with empathy and mental processing. In addition, this meditation also increases your sense of social connectedness.

SourcesUS National Library of Medicine, US National Library of Medicine.

#4: Improved Focus

Do you think that you need some focus in your life? According to some studies, meditation increases your ability to perform tasks that need you to focus by improving your cognition. For example, the best focus improving meditations include Hindu Meditation, Sufi Meditation, Tibetan Buddhist Meditation, Vipassana, and Transcendental Meditation. It is up to you to discover which one replaces your cup of coffee best.

SourcesThe Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine, ResearchGate.

Interesting Facts About Brain and Meditation – Fact #5 – Improved Relationship

Do you feel like your relationship needs some strengthening? Did you know that meditation allows you to relate to others better? There’s good news because by improving how you empathize and improving your ability to register the varying cues from other people’s feelings, you can relate to others in a much deeper way than before. Furthermore, meditation boosts your emotional stability, which means that you will fall under negative people’s influence lesser.


5 Habits of Happy People
Category: Blog,MENTAL HEALTH,Recommended,Self improvement Author: Feel Better Date: 3 weeks ago Comments: 0

Is the question “Am I really happy?” bothering you? Do you think that you could be happier? Do you have a problem with defining when you are actually happy and when not? Here are 5 habits of happy people so that you definitely know the next time you are happy and relax and enjoy the moment!

 

Living in the Moment

habits of happy people

The modern way of living makes us running at lightspeed with our pants on fire. Therefore, there’s little or no time to actually enjoy the moment when an opportunity arises. Sure, you probably have a walk to clear your mind or sit in the park, but even then, are you actually enjoying the moment or creating a new list of things you have to do when you get back home?

Happy people tend to enjoy their moments of happiness. There’s nothing bad in, for example, relaxing and savoring moments when you feel relaxed, without thinking about the problems. They won’t run away, no one else will solve them for you, so why not indulge yourself, put them aside for a moment and truly be happy, even if it’s just for a moment.

 

Being Resilient and Flexible

 

The definition of being resilient is being able to get back on your feet and successfully continue where you left off after a setback. Can you say “That’s me!”? Not many can, unfortunately. But, happy people can! When people are happy, when their plans go downhill, they are capable of not focusing on the bad and stopping in their tracks.

On the contrary, happy people get even more motivated to reach the goal they set even if the whole world is against them. Okay, maybe they won’t get back in the track right away, but planning when to come back is better than drowning yourself in sorrow because your plan misfired, right?

 

Staying Calm

When people lessen their stress level by managing to stay calm, they automatically feel better and are happier about themselves. Simple as that! Sure, it takes a lot of self-control to keep it verbal, not physical, and to keep a calm tone than to burst into flames.

Just think about it, were you ever in a situation where you lost your nerve and said or did something you regretted later? Did you think “I could have handled this differently and remained calm…” Well, just remember this next time stress makes you want to erupt and trust us, you will be much happier.

Being Good to Yourself

Do you know how airline companies tell you to “In case of emergency, please put the oxygen mask on yourself then help the person next to you do the same thing.” These drills are not designed just like that, they are well planned and there’s a reason why they are the way they are. The point of the story is – You can’t help others if you don’t help yourself first.

Therefore, if you want to be happy, you have to learn how to be good to yourself. Only after you are happy, you can make people around you happy as well. With this in mind, the next time you want to treat yourself with something that makes you happy, go for it! Don’t put your happiness down because you think others come first. Sure, in many cases they do (kids, loved ones, family). If you keep neglecting your happiness, in the long run, it will be bad for both you and the ones that you care for.

 

Doing Nothing is Also One of the Habits of Happy People

First of all, let’s not confuse Doing nothing with being lazy! There’s nothing wrong with allowing yourself to do nothing from time to time. Do you feel tired and want to spend the day in your PJs? Just binge-watching your favorite show? Go for it! Just don’t turn it into a habit because it will turn into laziness instead of allowing yourself to recharge your batteries.

Did you know that in Japan, the higher your responsibilities are at work, the bigger your garden is? They realized that huge amounts of stress are bad for productivity and overall happiness, so their garden is their place of Zen and a place where you go to do nothing except sit, relax, and enjoy the view. Therefore, you see what we mean when we say – Doing nothing from time to time hugely affects your happiness and is one of the habits of happy people.


How Smartphones Affect Mental Health
Category: Articles,Blog,Recommended,Self improvement Author: Feel Better Date: 3 weeks ago Comments: 0
how smartphones affect mental health

So, how smartphones affect mental health and is Smartphone addiction a real thing? We are all aware of how smartphones have become an essential part of our everyday lives. It doesn’t matter where you are, work, school, home, out, or wherever we are, smartphones are usually in our hands most of our time. Unlike before, phones have literally become smarter and now you can check on your friends, news, or find some information by just touching the screen of your phone. This is an amazing technological achievement but it does not come without a price, unfortunately. Smartphone addiction! Keep on reading to find out more.

 

Dopamine Chasing

how smartphones affect mental health

Just as any other addiction, the craving for something (a smartphone in this case) is a direct result of brain chemical interplay, but mostly because of dopamine. As you might already know, this neurotransmitter is the “I feel great” message that is carried on through the brain synapses when we do something we really like. Dopamine is in charge of reward-seeking behavior and motivation, as well as for a neuroplastic change, which is the main culprit in forming addictive habits.

So, what does your Smartphone have to do with dopamine and neuroplastic change in your brain? Well, it’s like this: Every time your phone rings, or you get some other notification (Facebook, Viber, Messenger, and so on) you actually get a shot of dopamine from your brain. And, since dopamine is the “happy pill”, in time, in order to get more “shots” you start checking your phone more often, and end up with an addiction in the end. You lose interest in other activities and find yourself spending way too much time looking at your Smartphone and that can be damaging to your mental health.

Here’s why…

Anxiety

 

Believe it or not, many people sense severe anxiety when they don’t know where their Smartphone is. Or when the battery is empty and they can’t stay “connected”, or when there’s no Wi-Fi… Not being close to your Smartphone can even display withdrawal-like symptoms we see with heroin addicts.

Overuse of smart devices is a psychological dependency, with anxiety as most dominant.

 

Sleep Disturbances

Disrupted sleep is a common side effect of constant Smartphone use. When you use your Smartphone in bed, before bedtime, the blue light that comes off the phone’s screen is actually making your brain believe that it’s day time. This further causes a lack of melatonin hormone production, and you don’t feel sleepy despite how tired you are. In the long run, this is not good for neither your brain nor your body.

 

Relationship Stress

 

Despite the popular belief that Smartphones make us closer to each other, they are actually doing the opposite. People tend to check on their phones during dates, family meals, and so on… This only makes the other side (partner, family member, friend) feel left out and widens the gap. Being too attached to a phone creates problems in friendships and relationships. This further leads to isolation and mental stress.

Depression

You will probably be surprised by finding out that science links smartphone usage with rising teenage suicide and depression rates. There’s also a study saying that teenagers who use their smartphones all the time are not as happy as teens who spend most of their time without being glued to a screen.

However, since we live in an era that requires us to have access to information, being without a phone completely can also cause depression. The happiest teens and people, in general, are those who have an ideal balance between spending time with the phone and without it. A normal smartphone use would be about an hour daily.

 

Reduced Productivity and Attention

 

Don’t you find it hard to concentrate on something when your phone keeps beeping all the time? Whether we are talking about messages, Facebook or other social media notifications, phones are quite a distraction. Therefore, it’s hard not to link attention and productivity problems with smartphone use. And, the science agrees because there have been experiments proving that people who excessively use smartphones have less gray matter in brain areas that are in charge of attention.

 

Conclusion

So, how do you know that you have a problem when it comes to smartphones? How do you know that this gadget is affecting your mental health? If you become anxious when separated from your phone and happier when glued to the screen than when engaging real-life, you have a problem that can seriously affect your mental health.

However, not everything is so dark because all the research and studies are focused on excessive phone use not moderate to a minimum. Also, it is still not clear if mental health symptoms are caused by heavy smartphone usage or the other way around. It is possible that people with mental health problems such as depression or anxiety have the need to stay connected to social media because they are looking for attention… In any case, finding a balance between smartphones and real-life is the key as with everything else in life.

 

 

 


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