How many times do we lie in a day? Some researches show we tell from ten to two hundred lies per day.
Are you honest by all means?
Do you support so-called white lies?
Do you think that there is a difference between omitting and lie?
We all agree that too much of everything can be harmful. How to find that fine line between honesty and private thoughts? Is it beneficial to use white lies as a peacekeeper?
Well, none the wiser. Experience, as many times before, is the best teacher.
Sometimes truth has to wait
Whether you were lier or lied to, things might be different with a new partner no matter what role you played in the past. But we all learn. Too much honesty, in the beginning, can be a hard pill to swallow. Sharing hard things from your past can be challenging to understand for your potential long-term partner, especially if you dealt with trauma or traumatizing experience. It’s fantastic when you find someone who you think is your soul mate. You want to know everything about them and vice versa. But sharing can be hurtful for both of you. If you fell hard for someone, it doesn’t mean that they must know everything about you. No matter how in love you are, use time as your ally; get to know that person first.
Freedom in a relationship
Freedom can be a strange word in a relationship. But being genuine is what gives us freedom. Be your true self.
First, emotional stability gives us a genuine and provides us with the freedom to do and behave true to ourselves. The most significant release comes from emotional stability. Therefore we will respond to challenges and various situations accordingly. Freedom also gave us a norm of honesty toward ourselves and to our partners. Indeed, it is a rare gift.
If you were lied to or even cheated, you would seek signs of similar actions in previous relationships. Unconsciously, those flags will rise in your brain.
Try to be fair. Sometimes bad experiences are just that. Try to get to know your partner, and if you are already together for a while, try to communicate better. Maybe there is a misunderstanding between you two.
Being lied to is not your responsibility, but being lied to and knowing about it is your responsibility. Don’t play head in the sand game, no matter how you are attracted to your partner. That makes you a liar too. You are teaming with your partner against you, against your feeling. Don’t do that. It’s no good.
White lies – do they exist?
Know your partner well. We all use white lies: that color is great on you, hone. We all have private thoughts that we choose not to share with our partners. There is a fine line between personal and intimate. Having a partner who wants to know what is going on in our heads all the time leaves us with a feeling of intrusion. Then can lead to frequent use of white lies and may lead to a lack of intimacy in the future. If you are with a partner who overshares or who is crossing boundaries, talk to them. Communicate and try to explain that some things are intended to stay private. Otherwise, you can become unhappy, and that can lead to an ended relationship. White lies can be helpful, but not in dozen.
Liar, liar pants on fire
I’m lying for their good: what you don’t know can’t hurt you. It was just a kiss. By intentionally omitting hurtful truth with an excuse that it will hurt others is just plain manipulation. It’s not your place to decide what someone will do. You are protecting yourself, not them. Manipulating people in your truth can be more hurtful in the future. If you want to have a good relationship that can lead to the future, be truthful. Was it just a kiss? And you are sure it was just a kiss. Maybe you can omit it one time, but if you have more than just kiss intentions, be honest. Playing with other people’s emotions is a way to nowhere worthwhile.
Ends and new beginnings
Love is a powerful force. Love can move the mountains. Believe in love. With every end, there is a new beginning around the corner. Experience can be a teacher. Treasure it. Be a good student and use those lessons in future relationships. No relationship is the same; don’t project last on a new one because you are not the same person anymore.