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Why failure might be good for you? How to take advantage of your own mistakes
Category: Blog,Motivation,Self improvement Author: Feel Better Date: 1 year ago Comments: 0

Most people tend to give up after they’ve had a failure. However, it’s important to know that failures are a normal part of everyone’s past. There isn’t a single person on this planet that made everything perfect from the first try. Everyone makes mistakes but it’s important to know why failure might be good for you. Here are 8 tips that help with using your failures to your advantage and coming out even stronger.

Let others know that you’ve made a mistake

If you’ve just made a mistake, keeping it to yourself and hoping that it will just go away and that no one will notice is not something you want to do. It’s inevitable that someone will find out about your failure and things will only get worse then. The equation is simple – when someone else points out to your mistake, it becomes two mistakes… Then, others will wonder why you didn’t tell them yourself and that leads to being seen as a coward or being ignorant. Gather the courage to speak up and let others that it was your mistake and that you want to fix it. You will be appreciated more afterward.

Don’t make excuses, explain what happened

By becoming the owner of your own mistakes makes you more confident, accountable, and shows integrity. However, you have to stick to the facts! Instead of making an excuse such as “We lost the contract because I got stuck in traffic and I didn’t have time to work on the contract.” say “We lost the contract because I missed the deadline”. Take responsibility for your mistakes.

Fix it yourself don’t wait for others to clean your mess

Taking responsibility for your own mistakes is one thing. Sure, it is admirable and it will make people see you in a better light. However, you can’t leave it at that! Your next step after your failure is the true test of your capabilities. Instead of backing down and expecting others to fix the mess you created, have a plan that will offer a solution. It will be even better if before you come out clean about your failure, that you’ve already taken steps that will solve the problem caused by your mistake.

Learn from your failure and then you will realize why failure might be good for you

Once you’ve managed to fix the problem caused by your mistake, you need to learn from it. Make a plan that will prevent you from making the same mistake again and stick with it. This is the best way to prove that you’ve learned from your mistakes and that you are reliable.

Don’t let the mistake take control over you

The most important thing about failures is that you don’t let them lose your confidence. This is the mindset you want to avoid at all costs. By allowing your mistake to take control over you, you will become handicaped each time you make a mistake, whether it’s a small or a huge one. Take some time to let the lesson of your mistake sink in. And, remember to get back on the horse as soon as the lesson is absorbed because the more you wait, the bigger are the chances you lose your confidence.

Get Perspective

People skilled at getting back in the saddle right after a mistake are more likely to blame the failure on something that they did (a specific oversight or wrong course of action) rather than something that they ARE. On the other hand, those who don’t handle their own mistakes well tend to blame mistakes on their lack of intelligence, or their laziness,  or other personal qualities. This implies that they had no control over the situation, and they are more likely to avoid risk-taking in the future.

Stay optimistic

One British study of 576 serial entrepreneurs found that they were much more likely to expect success than entrepreneurs who gave up after their first failure. The very sense of optimism is what prevents us from thinking that we are a complete failure of a person. Stay optimistic, try to see each mistake as a building block to your ultimate success.

Be Persistent

Persistance is actually optimism in action. Optimism is a positive feeling, while persistence is what you do with that feeling. While those people who are not optimistic decide that they’ve had enough after a mistake and quit, persistent people, stay optimistic and shake off those toxic feelings and get back in the saddle and try again. People who are persistent never lose their optimism and that makes them special and great at rising from mistakes.

 


Dating with mental illness
Category: Self improvement Author: Feel Better Date: 1 year ago Comments: 0

The core aspects of human experience are sexuality, dating, and romance. This, it’s no wonder why each person thrives to experience a satisfying and meaningful relationship. However, what about people with mental issues? Is dating with mental illness possible? Do they find “the one” and do they experience true romance and the feeling that comes with it? Here are 5 steps that show how dating with a mental illness isn’t impossible.

Love yourself!

dating with mental illness

The famous phrase “You are not able to love others if you don’t love yourself in the first place” is not just a silly phrase without actual meaning. This is completely true because even if you love someone and care about that person if you are not “in love” with yourself, all that “love” coming from you is not real and it’s not coming from a healthy and true place. When you care about someone without caring about yourself in the first place, you are becoming obsessed with that person and that isn’t true love. So, learn how to embrace and love yourself first if you want to give that love to others as well.

Take a walk through your past

This pretty much goes for every kind of relationship, with or without mental problems. Instead of entering a relationship and hoping for the best, and trying to figure out what the problem in the relationship is as it occurs, we should take some time to “take a walk” through our memory lane and see where the cause of the problem might be coming from. By knowing the issues from your past, you allow yourself to work on your problems in a healthy way, instead of blaming your partner for a bad relationship. Don’t get us wrong, it’s normal to have bad habits, we all accumulate them during our lives. However, knowing what your bad habits are and trying to become better is the first step in building a healthy relationship we all seek for.

Give yourself “ME” time and set healthy boundaries

Spending all the time with your partner is normal in the beginning. However, after a while, we need our freedom. This goes for everyone, not just for people that are either with a mental illness or dating someone who is. As much as we are social beings, each one of us needs some time alone to process feelings, experiences, and simply enjoy those “me” moments. Therefore, regardless of your or your partner’s mental health issues, setting some healthy boundaries and being able to enjoy your hobby or something you love doing alone is a completely normal thing and your partner should respect that.

Know what your partner is going through or try to explain what you are going through

dating with mental illness

One of the biggest problems that people with mental illness have is the fear of their partner not understanding what they are going through. For this reason, most of the people with such issues give up on dating and suffer in their loneliness. This is where they are wrong because explaining what you are going through to your partner can sometimes make the relationship and the bond even stronger. On the other hand, if your partner is the one with mental problems, you need to try and understand what they are going through so that you can help when they need help, and possibly learn to spot the warning signs. Either way, communication and being honest always helps, regardless of the type of relationship.

Take it slow

Don’t rush into a relationship just because you have a mental illness and are afraid of ending up alone. Before each relationship becomes serious and meaningful, we need time to get to know the other person. We need time to be sure that the other side is trustworthy so that we can allow them to enter our lives completely. When you move too fast in a relationship, you only risk becoming more vulnerable than you already are. Also, such situations create a false sense of intimacy, which is the last thing you need in your life. Therefore, give it time, get to know each other better. If it’s really worth it, it will become better and better and you will grow together as a couple over time.


The healing practice of self-hypnosis
Category: Blog,Motivation,Self improvement Author: Feel Better Date: 1 year ago Comments: 0

For most people hypnosis is a “dark and scary practice”. When you are hypnotized, you are completely unaware of what happens to you and that is scary, right? No one is happy with the fact that someone else has complete control of you and can make you do things you wouldn’t do. But is hypnosis really that scary? Is it really like we see it in the movies? But what if you were able to hypnotize yourself, by yourself? What if you were able to help yourself with your problems with self-hypnosis? Yes, this exists and the healing practice of self-hypnosis can do wonders for both physical and mental issues.

How to learn to use the healing practice of self-hypnosis

Like any new skill, becoming good at self-hypnosis takes time and practice. You have to be committed to your goal, and train at least 2 or 3 times each day. Soon enough, it will become a part of you. It’s all about training your mind, and the good thing is, you don’t have to have perfect conditions, there’s no medical procedure involved, and you DON’T need drugs. Here are 6 steps you need to follow:

Step #1 – Find a quiet place

healing practice of self-hypnosis

Since we live in the modern era where finding a quiet place might be difficult, this step could turn up to be harder than it sounds. However, once you’ve found your quiet, safe place without your phone, kids, pets, or anything that might distract you, you can begin. Just remember that you have to support your back by sitting in a stable chair or couch and that there’s nothing around you that you might hurt yourself with if you happen to lose balance. There’s also something reassuring in knowing that you are completely safe and that helps you relax, which is the key to self-hypnosis.

Step #2 – Take the correct position

Self-hypnosis starts with the right sitting position. Your legs should be uncrossed with your hands placed in your lap. Once you feel comfortable in this position, you should start taking deep breaths. Once you’ve managed to focus on breathing correctly, close your eyes.

Step #3 – Clear your mind from thoughts

healing practice of self-hypnosis

Take a few minutes to just focus on your breathing. Visualize your breaths as they come in and out. Clear your mind from any other thought besides breathing. Each time a thought sneaks up on you, push it out by focusing on your breaths.

Step #4 – Sink in

When you manage to become fully relaxed and there’s nothing on your mind except breathing thoughts, allow yourself to become “heavy”. You will feel how your body starts feeling heavier and heavier and it “sinks in” the chair or couch. Relax and let that feeling take over.

Step #5 – Positive Mantra

Once your body sunk in wherever you are sitting and you feel completely relaxed, add a positive mantra to your self-hypnosis process. This mantra should be something like “I am relaxed, I am calm, I am in control”. Repeat this mantra until it starts echoing in your mind and you feel relaxed and positive (it should be done for 5 minutes and use a timer in the beginning)

Step #6 – 10, 9, 8, 7…

healing practice of self-hypnosis

Once the 5-minute mantra is done (you will learn to feel when 5 minutes are up in time) you will start feeling how your body is exiting the sinking in feeling. In that moment, focus on each part of your body and visualize how you are sending positive energy to your limbs. When you feel every part of your body “energized” take 3 more deep breaths and start counting back from 10. When you reach 1, slowly open your eyes and allow that positive sensation to sink in while you sit there a few more minutes. That’s it!

The healing practice of self-hypnosis -This is not meditation

Although the process sounds very much like meditation, self-hypnosis isn’t the same. In self-hypnosis practice, your mind is engaged more actively, but in a more centered and calm way. In case you can’t find 5 minutes each day for this practice, or you can’t focus for that long, start with fewer minutes and eventually work up as you progress. You will see that after a while, that positive energy you feel while practicing self-hypnosis extends to everyday situations. You will feel more relaxed and positive on a daily basis and you will also buffer out the negative effects of stress, worry, and anxiety.


Why the first impression is so important and how to make good ones?
Category: Blog,Recommended,Self improvement Author: Feel Better Date: 1 year ago Comments: 0
why the first impression is so important

Did you know that it takes about 15 seconds to make a first impression? Also, more than half of first impressions are made based off of appearance. Also, the tone of the voice is something that influences the first impression greatly, while what you say isn’t that much important as one might think. But why the first impression is so important? Do we really have less than 20 seconds to make a good first impression? How to actually make a great first good impression? Just keep reading our article to find out.

Why the first impression is so important and how to make a good one?

More often than not, making a bad first impression is something that you can’t go back from. But the good news is that you can work on being a stellar first impressionist in a few easy steps. Sure, this road might get “ugly” because you might discover some things about you that will make a bad impression on yourself. Just look at it as a road to improvement in general, and making good first impressions is just one of the benefits.

Here are the steps you need to make to become the “First impression magician”.

Honestly ask yourself if you make a great first impression or not?

Do you want to be seen as energetic, reliable, confident, and make a great first impression on anyone you meet for the first time? You need to make a great impression on yourself first. This is the “ugly” part of the path we mentioned. This is where you have to be honest with yourself and spot the things about you that, firstly, you don’t like, and then what other people might not like about you. Once you get those sorted out, you can move to the next phase which is, getting yourself in shape, in every possible way.

Get in physical shape

Exercise and work on your body at least 3 or 4 days a week and make sure you eat healthily. Did you know that “oversized” people are less likely to make a good impression on a job interview that people who are fit? Companies see “bulkier” people as an expense because such workers are less energetic, thus less productive, and they take more sick days than workers who are in better physical shape. So, do you want to be “that guy’?

“Dress to kill”

In order to “blow away” anyone who you meet for the first time, you have to be dressed to “kill”. This means that your wardrobe is clean, without wrinkles, appropriate, yet stylish. Having an extra sharp wardrobe style is never out of fashion and it sure is impressive. Do you think James Bond made a bad first impression? Ever?

Don’t avoid your hairstylist

There’s nothing that says more that you are a wreck like a bad, shaggy, unnurtured hair… Therefore, don’t forget where your hairstylist’s studio is and make sure you regularly pay him a visit.

Don’t forget about your face

why the first impression is so important

Great hair matters nothing if the rest of the head isn’t in tune. So, for men, don’t allow your beard and mustache to look like they belong to a homeless person! Trim regularly! For women, bad face skin is definitely not going to make you the queen of good first impressions so use those cremes you paid a small fortune and don’t forget to practice on your makeup skills!

The first impression is so important so mind your posture and smile

why the first impression is so important

Having a straight posture and a smile on the face is as important as any other thing on this list. The truth is, when you stand straight and have a smiling face, you look confident and friendly, which is a killer combo for being the king of first impressions.


How to boost your charisma as an introvert?
Category: Blog,Motivation,Self improvement Author: Feel Better Date: 1 year ago Comments: 0
how to boost your charisma as an introvert

Most people think that being charismatic is something you were born with. Well, for some people that is true. However, charisma is actually something you can learn even if you were born without it. So, if you wanted to know how to boost your charisma as an introvert, make sure you read our guide to the end.

How to boost your charisma as an introvert? You learn about yourself that’s how

Have you ever met someone who you instantly liked and didn’t know why? Well, most likely, that person had charisma. The good news is, you can learn to be charismatic too. You just need to change your behavior a bit and presto! You are charismatic! Being charismatic is about saying and doing not about who you really are as a person. It doesn’t mean that you should pretend to be someone else. No, it just means that you have to brush up on your subconscious, work on your physical expressions and social cues, and how you treat people around you. It’s not an easy task, that we admit, but once you start working on your charisma, you will meet your true self and work on becoming a better person in general. The charisma part comes by itself.

Be present

Being confident is really important if you want to be charismatic. However, a more important thing is to be present. By present, we mean being honestly engaged when it comes to other people. It’s important to show to other people that they have your whole attention when you are listening to them. When you aren’t that confident, people might think that you are just shy, but if they don’t have your attention, you only come off as a person who is there just to show off, and not someone they can trust. So, when talking to people, make sure you really hear what they say and engage in conversation.

How to boost your charisma as an introvert? Be confident

Being confident is one of the most important milestones on your path to becoming charismatic. However, we know that as an introvert, it’s not easy to pull off the whole “I am confident” appearance. Also, you don’t want to seem too confident because that makes you look like an arrogant person. On the other hand, not being confident makes you look scared or timid. So, the key is finding a balance and feeling good in your own skin. Working on your body, dressing the way you love, and having conversations about what you understand and love talking are some of the things that build confidence.

Learn how to talk to people

how to boost your charisma as an introvert

This is probably the most important step in learning how to boost your charisma as an introvert. Charismatic people know how to start a conversation and you won’t “hear” the awkward silence when around them. If that presents a problem for you, you need to practice. Yes, it will be really hard at the start, but once you get more relaxed and your confidence builds up, you will see how rewarding it actually is. It’s all about creativity and being introvert doesn’t mean you are not creative, right? Also, starting a conversation is all about being nice, not trying to sound smart or brilliant. And, being nice to other people is a huge boost for your charisma points with others.


What does your body language say about you?
Category: Blog,Recommended,Self improvement Author: Feel Better Date: 1 year ago Comments: 0

By being aware of how you present yourself can help you with improving your body language and with sending the message you want to send. But what does your body language say about you anyway? Why is body language so important and do people actually notice it? Read our article to get the answers you are looking for.

 

What Does Your Body Language say about you?

Thousands of years ago, people “read” other people by keeping an eye on their body language. This way, they could determine if someone was a threat or a friend without getting too close. Now, in the modern era, in most cases, our lives are not so much in danger like centuries ago, but our brain still remembers those primal instincts and assesses people by their body language.

Did you know that when you walk into a room, people there are subconsciously judging you by the way you walk and carry yourself? It’s amazing how you can make people think that you are powerful and successful, by just adapting your posture, hand gestures, and facial expressions.

 

Striking a Power Pose Makes You Look Confident and Successful

Did you know that the famous Rocky Balboa pose on the top of the stairs is as old as humanity itself? Even today, you can see that power pose with male gorillas who are showing their dominance.

When your arms are raised high, you present yourself as the victor, the one who triumphed. When in power pose, you carry your body in an open, expansive manner, where both your legs and arms are away from your body. You are not showing that you are vulnerable but victorious and that you “can take on anybody or anything”.

Now, when it comes to real-life situations, of course you don’t have to jump around and pound your chest like a gorilla. For an impressive, successful-looking power pose, it’s enough to have an upright, standing tole body pose to appear powerful and like someone who knows what he’s doing.

 

Genuine Smile Makes More Friends

In case you want to make more friends or improve your relationships in general, it’s good to know that a genuine smile makes you more cheerful and makes it easier for others to approach you and start a conversation. As a matter of fact, people who rarely smile, have problems with communication and are less appealing to new people. Needless to say, making new friends with a grumpy face is pretty much impossible.

 

Right Amount of Eye Contact Leaves a Long-lasting Impression

When you have the right amount of eye contact while talking to someone, you are making a good impression on them and they will remember you positively. Eye contact makes people sure you are actually listening to what they are saying.

But, definitely keep in mind that too much eye contact does the opposite and makes people feel creepy and uncomfortable as if they were questioned by the police for something bad they did. Thus, finding the golden middle is something you have to practice if you want to make a positive, long-lasting impression on people.

 

A Firm Handshake Impresses People

Handshake is the symbol of friendship for as long as humanity exists. In most cultures around the globe, a firm handshake is used when greeting the people you love, when meeting new people who you have nothing against, or as a sign that the mutual business agreement was successful.

So, when shaking hands, if you want to leave a favorable impression, make sure you have a firm grip but not too firm because it may be subconsciously considered as a display of dominance and a challenge. On the other hand, a weak handshake sends a message that you are weak, unreliable, and not trustworthy. Again, a golden middle is the level of firmness you want to achieve and you get there by practicing.

 


How to Stay Confident in Embarrassing Situations?
Category: Motivation,Recommended,Self improvement Author: Feel Better Date: 2 years ago Comments: 0
How to stay confident in embarrassing Situations

Sure, embarrassing situations are, well, embarrassing. But it’s not the end of the world and you won’t be branded as the “one that did that embarrassing thing!” for the rest of your life, don’t worry. However, we know that in that embarrassing moment, it does feel like it will last forever and it’s really hard to shake off that feeling. For that reason, we’ve decided to create this guide on how to stay confident in embarrassing situations and help you stay cool in your next OOPSSS moment.

The “Place Swap”

You will agree with us that during an embarrassing situation, the first thoughts that come to your mind are in the lines of “What have I done?! Now everyone is watching me! Oh, I wish I didn’t exist now!!” Can you see what’s happening here? All the focus is on YOU. Sure, it’s completely normal to be focused on yourself in such moments, but that is seeing the picture from your angle.

The truth is, all the people who saw your OOPSS moment, will think of it much less than yourself. They will most likely forget it after a minute. Just remember the last time you saw someone else embarrass himself. Having a hard time remembering, aren’t you? Well, that’s the whole point of “swapping places” when something embarrassing happens because you quickly realize that it’s not that big of a deal after all.

Turn the Embarrassing Moment into a Joke

How to Stay Confident in Embarrassing Situations

When you’re having an embarrassing situation, your friends will most likely tell you to laugh it off. Sure, it is easier said than done, but that actually isn’t a piece of bad advice at all! The best way to stay confident in embarrassing situations and deal with that moment is to face it right away instead of ignoring it. We all know how these moments build up tension and how hard it is to get out of that. However, breaking a joke in that particular tensed moment is the best way to get rid of the bad feeling and immediately process it and turn it into a fun, healthy memory.

Focus on Different Parts of Your Embarrassing Memory

Some of our embarrassing moments can stay in our minds for a long time. And each time you remember it, it hurts the same as it did that day, doesn’t it? Well, there’s a way to get through those embarrassing memories much easier and with less pain. All you have to do is try and remember all the other things that happened around that moment. For example, if you spilled a drink on yourself on a party that happened years ago, and the bad feeling still haunts you, focus on other things that happened at that party. Try and remember the music, the fun you had, the funny stuff you did with your friends. You will see how quickly you forget about that “incident” and start feeling happy because you remembered how much fun you actually had at that party.

Cool Off

When something embarrassing happens, most of us start feeling hot, we blush, and even the breathing becomes hard. Well, that is completely normal because our emotions affect our body temperature. Therefore, cooling off is just what you need at that moment. Taking a few deep breaths will help, but you will overcome the “heat of the moment” much easier if you physically cool yourself off with, for example, ice-cold glass of water.

Embrace It

When something embarrassing happens to us, it makes us cringe, our jaws hurt, and we all wish that it never happened. However, it did happen, and it happens to everyone around the globe, each day. So, the best thing is to face it and get over it right away because if you chug it under the rug, it will come back at you and hurt again. So, the next time something embarrassing happens to you, just pull yourself together and embrace it. It will go away much easier, trust us. You don’t want that bad feeling festering in you… None of us does!


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