Most people tend to give up after they’ve had a failure. However, it’s important to know that failures are a normal part of everyone’s past. There isn’t a single person on this planet that made everything perfect from the first try. Everyone makes mistakes but it’s important to know why failure might be good for you. Here are 8 tips that help with using your failures to your advantage and coming out even stronger.
Let others know that you’ve made a mistake
If you’ve just made a mistake, keeping it to yourself and hoping that it will just go away and that no one will notice is not something you want to do. It’s inevitable that someone will find out about your failure and things will only get worse then. The equation is simple – when someone else points out to your mistake, it becomes two mistakes… Then, others will wonder why you didn’t tell them yourself and that leads to being seen as a coward or being ignorant. Gather the courage to speak up and let others that it was your mistake and that you want to fix it. You will be appreciated more afterward.
Don’t make excuses, explain what happened
By becoming the owner of your own mistakes makes you more confident, accountable, and shows integrity. However, you have to stick to the facts! Instead of making an excuse such as “We lost the contract because I got stuck in traffic and I didn’t have time to work on the contract.” say “We lost the contract because I missed the deadline”. Take responsibility for your mistakes.
Fix it yourself don’t wait for others to clean your mess
Taking responsibility for your own mistakes is one thing. Sure, it is admirable and it will make people see you in a better light. However, you can’t leave it at that! Your next step after your failure is the true test of your capabilities. Instead of backing down and expecting others to fix the mess you created, have a plan that will offer a solution. It will be even better if before you come out clean about your failure, that you’ve already taken steps that will solve the problem caused by your mistake.
Learn from your failure and then you will realize why failure might be good for you
Once you’ve managed to fix the problem caused by your mistake, you need to learn from it. Make a plan that will prevent you from making the same mistake again and stick with it. This is the best way to prove that you’ve learned from your mistakes and that you are reliable.
Don’t let the mistake take control over you
The most important thing about failures is that you don’t let them lose your confidence. This is the mindset you want to avoid at all costs. By allowing your mistake to take control over you, you will become handicaped each time you make a mistake, whether it’s a small or a huge one. Take some time to let the lesson of your mistake sink in. And, remember to get back on the horse as soon as the lesson is absorbed because the more you wait, the bigger are the chances you lose your confidence.
People skilled at getting back in the saddle right after a mistake are more likely to blame the failure on something that they did (a specific oversight or wrong course of action) rather than something that they ARE. On the other hand, those who don’t handle their own mistakes well tend to blame mistakes on their lack of intelligence, or their laziness, or other personal qualities. This implies that they had no control over the situation, and they are more likely to avoid risk-taking in the future.
One British study of 576 serial entrepreneurs found that they were much more likely to expect success than entrepreneurs who gave up after their first failure. The very sense of optimism is what prevents us from thinking that we are a complete failure of a person. Stay optimistic, try to see each mistake as a building block to your ultimate success.
Persistance is actually optimism in action. Optimism is a positive feeling, while persistence is what you do with that feeling. While those people who are not optimistic decide that they’ve had enough after a mistake and quit, persistent people, stay optimistic and shake off those toxic feelings and get back in the saddle and try again. People who are persistent never lose their optimism and that makes them special and great at rising from mistakes.